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When Jess speaks, the audiences mouths gently open in wonderment and awe. Her content is infallible and her delivery is inspirational.

Real Talk Raw Beauty
On May 17, 2018 • By Real Talk Raw Beauty
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About Real Talk Raw Beauty

I’m a tenacious female with deep thoughts, tall dreams…and a little bit of sass.

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    Setting Goals in a Way that Actually Works w/ @den Setting Goals in a Way that Actually Works w/ @dennis_butters 🗒 

Something this man is exceptional at is setting goals AND achieving them. He’s focused on them throughout the year and can rattle them all off the top of his head. 

Side step to my style - and I tend to list goals for each life category, review them late December, and realise I forgot about half of them 😅

Sometimes I’ve fluked achieving them anyway, sometimes I give myself half a tick, and sometimes it’s an “oops, forgot about this, we’ll roll that one over”

I asked him for some tippies this year, and thought I’d share them with you too... 

• Visioning instead of goal setting - it should excite you, not feel like a chore 

• Get clear on WHY you are wanting to achieve it more than the how

• Make sure each of your goals invokes POSITIVE emotion when you think about it

• Turn each goal into something you can visualise, like a story you play out in your minds-eye 

Something else I like to do is write down all my achievements from the past year BEFORE setting new intentions. This helps me not forget what a badass I am, and then I like to celebrate me.

Happy New Year Lovers 🎉✨
    If you want to experience something new, you have If you want to experience something new, you have to be willing to experience a different YOU... 

It may require letting go of the parts of you you’ve outgrown

It may require changing habits which have consistently gotten you the same results 

It may require shifting rigid belief systems and inflexible paradigms 

And it may require trying new ways of operating and seeing what resonates and what doesn’t 

In my experience, I have found this to be true - we can’t reach for something new while we’re relentlessly holding onto something old

Your life cannot up-level if you are not choosing to up-level 

If you are bored or unhappy or dissatisfied with your life, and wishing for change; the only question to consider is how much are you willing to change YOU?
    Some signs you may potentially have a leader who i Some signs you may potentially have a leader who is covertly undermining you: 

• They will ask you to have the tough conversations with other colleagues or clients (if it’s actually their responsibility to do so), positioning you as the bad cop so they can remain the good cop 

• They will praise you personally, but paint you in a negative light to superiors

* They will tease or belittle you around others, but package it up in a joking way 

* They will attempt to foster your dependency on them, by seeking out and encouraging you to go to them with personal (not just professional) issues to offer you their advice and support 

* They may become agitated if you don’t follow their advice regarding your personal issues 

* They may create a relationship dynamic where they gossip with you about others, and inadvertently encourage you to share information about others also

* They may withhold information that you need to perform your job adequately 

* You may start to identify their words are not always congruent with their energy or actions 

* You might observe they surround themselves with people who easily agree with them, look up to them, and follow their direction without debate 

* You might observe that the people they complain most about or distance them self from are those who challenge, openly question or disagree with their view 

* They may create confusion around professional decisions you made, causing you to second guess yourself or distrust your own initiative next time 

These are just some examples of the more covert and less detectable ways a person can be seeking your dependence for their benefit, rather than encouraging you to step into your full empowered self! 

As with anything, there are always exceptions, but I hope this provides some food for thought x
    In this progressive time of personal development, In this progressive time of personal development, accountability, “wokeness” I recognise and coach a lot of people who refuse to play the victim. 

Which is great!

Except for one thing... there can be no true healing without acknowledgement.

You do NOT have to PLAY the victim, but in order to actually heal your emotional wounds you MUST first acknowledge you WERE a “victim” to someone or something. You must acknowledge your suffering and not invalidate it by comparing to others you may perceive to have it “worse”.

If you invalidate your pain you can’t heal from your pain. 

While you can take pride in your strength to overcome circumstances, or while you can accept your soul may have attracted those circumstances to help you grow and evolve... you still can’t skip the step of acknowledging and FEELING the pain you experienced.

Too many people are wanting to bypass this step to prove they’re not a victim. Myself included at times.

But it is not helping you.

Instead it will be stored in your emotional body ready to be activated in any similar situation that triggers it.

Acknowledgment is an integral step for any healing 🤍
    ✨My Soul Emblem 🔱 Channeled and created for ✨My Soul Emblem 🔱

Channeled and created for me by the outrageously gifted @samajraphael 

I’ll forever be grateful. 

Samaj has a special energy. Almost instantly he was able to tune in to the essence of my soul; who I really am. He was able to identify what my soul requires in order to do the work I am here to do. Few people have ever been able to "see" me in this way. That in and of itself is the greatest gift anyone could give another.
Samaj is not only a breathtakingly skilled artist, but possesses many spiritual gifts allowing him to channel the perfectly tailored emblem. Consider it like a family crest or sigel, and then consider it so much more. 
Every element of my emblem is there with purpose for my benefit.
I was drawn to Samaj instantly, and without any real understanding of what it was I just knew this was something I needed on my soul journey.

I couldn’t be more in love with my emblem.

Samaj, I consider this the most sacred offering💛
    We’re talking about grief. We’re talking about We’re talking about grief. We’re talking about how a tragic life-blow can rupture your soul enough that all the unfelt pain of your past can flood through. We’re talking about how bitter suffering can bring you home to yourself. 

Take a listen.
    What would happen if you led with desire and passi What would happen if you led with desire and passion rather than practicality or reason? 

⚠️ “I’m just being logical” is FEAR disguised as practicality and sensibility. 

You might initially disagree with that statement. You might think - as I (a heavily logic orientated person) always thought - that logic is the best way NOT to succumb to your emotions.

There’s a couple layers to this... 

First Layer: The incessant pursuit not to “give in” to our emotions. Why is there such a massive LACK of value placed on emotions, and an equally massive value placed on logic? Because the masculine energy has been too dominant for too long, so much so that even many women value the masculine traits more than the feminine traits. Feminine energy is all about intuition, flow, surrender, receiving, experiencing the powerful range of emotions (which are the salt of life). Notice if you viscerally screwed your face up at those qualities, as if they exhibit weakness. That’s the problem! A gross imbalance of the feminine and masculine energies. 

Second Layer: To be logical, to analyse, to do your pros and cons lists, to risk assess etc. - is all processes of the mind. Yet the mind, contrary to popular belief, is extremely limited in its view. It only knows what it knows, it can’t possibly know what it doesn’t know, it can only see what it’s previously observed, and its governed by  fear and the desire to belong, keep you safe and comfortable. In truth, it’s not a great source for big decision making, and certainly shouldn’t be your only source.

So what is? Your INTUITION! Your gut instinct. The things you just FEEL but can’t explain. This comes from your inner being, your spirit or soul, your higher intelligence - whatever you want to call the part of you connected to the non-physical realm, who knows infinitely more than the mind can comprehend.

Don’t believe it?

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    Honesty never turns somebody off, insecurity does. Honesty never turns somebody off, insecurity does.

~NEW BLOG POST IS UP~

Okay so its been a hot minute (try over a year) since I posted a blog. I got distracted building a business 💁🏼‍♀️ but today I just felt like getting back to the basics.

I sat down and nearly turned on the hypnotic drama of @therealhousewivesofbh and instead started typing away.

~LINK IN BIO~

I hope this is one you enjoy 🔥🥰
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